During my life so far I have found things and activities that 'keep me going' when my mind or body is telling me it's too hard. I collect them and put them in my grown-up toy box and just as I did when I was a child, I go to my toy box and get those toys that give me the most happy time.
Now I'm supposedly all grown up, my toys are not Action men or plastic bricks or furry teddy bears (well not in public anyway!) As adult Tim, I have a number of 'toys' that I call upon to settle my mind from worries, pick it back up from a spiral of depression or bring a happy smile to my face when its forgotten how to.
In the grown-up world I call this my Personal Resilience Playbook, and I have shared a copy of it here.
We all have things and activities that calm us down or improve our mood. The key is that these things in our toy box are healthy for us and not as the psychologists refer to as Safety Behaviours.
Activities such as walking in nature (or just outside), listening to nice music (baroque or light music), reading a good book or stroking a pet. But when we are at work in the middle of near personal crisis caused by a demanding boss, failed promotion or just irritating water cooler gossip, we can't always grab a pet to stroke or plug into our music.
This is where your own Personal Resilience Playbook really becomes useful. You can add activities that can be used anywhere. The three step breathing exercise for example can be done whilst queuing in traffic, waiting rooms or sat at your desk. A short meditation can be done during a lunch break or before you start to drive or commute home.
For even more immediate relief from 'unhealthy thinking' or excessive worrying, you can easily complete a quick CBT form, to any passers by - it will look like you are working anyway!
The difference these activities will make could be massive, and might be the difference between a full on crisis or a minor blip!
Download my Personal Resilience Playbook today and tailor it to your toybox.